An inspired mind is the gateway to future!

Session C: Transforming to a 'No Excuse' mindset 

In the session A, we traced the sequence of

• Undesirable effect or consequence - The outcomes we regret and wish to avoid 
• Our behavior at that moment
• the incident that triggered the dysfunctional behavior
  

In the session B, we committed to break the bad spell.  We connected with the assumptions that 'hold on to us' and refuse to let ourselves grow. Unless these assumptions are challenged we will continue to be  prevented from growing

In session C, we plan to do the reverse of Session A. This is a transformational charter that can become an invaluable lifetime value proposition. It provides the recipe for transforming yourself into becoming that you made up your mind to become for real!

This is both a blueprint and a road map to living to realize the value proposition you have elected to treat yourself with. 

• Recognize the cue: Newton wanted to accompany his father on a horse ride. While the horse walked out of the barn door, the young fowl refused to follow suit. Disappointed, the youngster pulled hard and pushed it from behind but did not succeed.  
  
• Pause: The barn keeper, a young teen aged girl, saw the struggle.
• 'Thought switch': She knew intuitively what would move the fowl.
  
• Choose the Response: Offering her thumb for the fowl to suckle, she gently lead him out of the bard door towards the horse 
• Close with a 'No excuse' test: Watching from  distance, Newton Sr. was left wondering the humane solution that had escaped the scientific mind!
  

Securing victory over a self defeating and entrenched 'dead habit' can be a liberating experience. True fulfillment comes from winning over the self for one's own sake.

Next: How to ingrain the 'new response into a subconscious habit?

Case study: Learning to 'part with grace'

• Recognize the cue: "Recurring pattern was the tendency to fly into rage or raise my voice. Right from the barber to the junior colleague will simply 'freeze' leaving me helpless and at his or her mercy to accept whatever they decide to do thereafter. The event is often triggered by their work style and response pattern being inconsistent with my need to be quick and correct. I will feel belittled by my own self invited helplessness and sulk at having to depend upon someone else. Feeling shy to ask for help, I end up doing everything myself and feel overworked. Core dysfunctionality: Unsolicited coaching and unrealistic expectation that everyone should think and act like I do.
• Pause: Skirt my immediate impulse to react; recognize the 'alarm' and 'hold back' the tendency to  walk into the potential 'emotional trap'.
  
• 'Thought switch': Stay outcome driven and stop becoming an unsolicited coach. Switch my urge to be 'quick and get done with'. Allow plenty of time for the service to 'happen' the way the other person is habituated to doing. 
  
• Choose the Response: Show grace and appreciation without shying away from getting serviced fully on my own terms.Create the best experience for the person to enjoy servicing my need without creating the impression of monopolizing or manipulating them.
  
• Close with a 'No excuse' test: The 'event' is a success only if the other person expresses, implicitly or explicitly, a desire to serve me the next time with enthusiasm. It is another matter whether I return to the same person in future. Success lay in being welcome back and parting with grace.
  

Don't Wait: Ready for the Road?